Let your family members be as they are this holiday season (and beyond). Give them space. I mean this even if you are sitting with them – give them space to be. Don’t take any responsibility for what they say or do, and do take it on, don’t open yourself up to being upset. You re responsible for your own reactions and to step away from being triggered…
When these waves of unpleasant feelings arise in you – let these be as well. Notice them. Do not identify with them. Be the neutral space of awareness in which feelings arise. Be a witness to them, let them be. Treating feelings in this way will begin to remove their power over you. Negativity cannot survive in an accepting, surrendered, alert inner state.
Even if you understand that being affected by another’s negativity is useless, still this behaviour may habitually arise in you, by itself. You are always responsibile for your own reactions or feelings – be more responsible as a non-judgmental witness of them as they come, stay, and go. Have no opinion of how you should be feeling when around these family members – and as a result you will be more surrendered and at peace, not fighting and fueling any negativity inside your own self.
Obviously you cannot control someone else’s negativity or opinions, and if you argue against it, you just make it worse. So, you can use it to burn up any latent negativity inside yourself. With family members in particular, other people can trigger negativity inside you, or trigger shared negativity that exists within many members of the group - which you can then transcend using awareness and nonresistance (surrender/acceptance)
Give up any need to control your mother or grandmother, and don’t try to control your own feelings. Trying to control these things is like trying to cage a wild beast – the beast will get more upset and will fight even more. Surrender completely. If resistance and negativity arise in you, surrender to that, be a space for it all, let it be as it is. This is a far quicker way to peace than consulting the mind or thinking about anything.
To go a step further – the “me” that is upset by all of this - is also observed by you. You can be aware of this “upset me” as it arises – remain as the awareness.
All of the above may at first seem as if you are becoming weaker – but this is only the mind’s interpretation. If you let yourself be as you are – including any uncomfortable feelings, and you let other people be – then action or speech will happen more naturally, and less traumatically for you. You may find yourself not reacting at all to the outside negativity – almost as if it does not exist, or you may find yourself speaking or expressing yourself, but in a less argumentative way.
Usually when people are negative around others, they are looking for a reaction or confirmation from someone else. Sometimes the negativity in them wants to create negativity in others. Giving someone else space to be, without mental judgement, is a great antidote for this. The negative one may get confused or upset – but you just continue to let them be, and you will do (or not do) whatever is needed.
The main thing to do is stay inside yourself. Stay as the witness of your inner state. Non-judgmentally watch the reactions arise in you. Be there as a witness only. Be aware of the story in the head that is formed around these family members –when you are with them and when you are not. Notice how the mind makes these people into concepts and judges and interprets their behaviour mentally. Drop this mental labelling as much as possible and remain as a witness to it if it continues to arise.
When you give up all attempts to change the way you feel, and instead totally allow yourself to feel what you are feeling – then these feelings will gradually or suddenly be transformed into peace. Don’t take ownership of your thoughts and feelings.
Negative family members can actually be great spiritual teachers – if you approach them a certain way. They show you what you are still holding on to inside, what you react to, what the negative patterns inside you are - so that you can be aware of yourself as the untouched witness of it all.
Some of the unpleasantness you feel may also just be the energy field that emanates from these people, rather than only being the emotions that are triggered in you. All the above advice is useful to help with this.
If you don’t involve yourself with negative energy, but let it be, it will not have anything to feed on inside you, and it will diminish.
Taking the above words into account – saying that their negativity puts you off being around them (or any other honest expression from you) – will arise spontaneously if it is needed, and will come more from love than aggression.
We are more than the sum of our parts....we are more than our physical realities - as these next few months and within a handful of years we will all learn more of how this universe really works, the earth plane and who we truly are - this will continue to unfold in more profound ways (look at the political, religious and financial situations around the world - the corruption is being exposed and will continue to until more integrity is established). Those who are ready to know more, hear or understand more will come across in increasing frequency, situations that will come up to your awareness, pop into your reality through hearing others talk about something in particular and hear it more than once in a short time,or notice certain topics that appear or show up in your life - these are all clues to pay attention to, when the student is ready - the teacher(s) will appear to help us create change (we are all teachers for each other).
Personal change = Conscious Unity change. When we personally improve ourselves, we unknowingly-unconsciously help improve our world energy vibration around us. We live in a cause/affect reality. We are all connected vibrationaly, and are all one from the core of who we truly are. Essence, Spirit vibration of more than we can possibly know or fathom currently.
How we feel is the current truth for us on a personal level - so if you feel badly or off or negative - its your vibration reality and you effect others with the energy you emit. the ones around you and the collective energy (conscious unity) energy field.
When we are positive and more in alignment with our purposes within life, feel good about ourselves and do loving and good things for ourselves (which is not just going for a pedicure or on holiday or buy the Audi - yes that too) however, its the eating whole foods and well for optimum health, moving and honouring the body vessel, being aware of your attitudes and output toward others, etc - these types of things equate to loving and honouring thy self)
We don't know, what we don't know...
We are all here to serve each other, give experiences, lessons and learn more of how to fulfill our desires. Its up to you to seek and find through your own personal issues and veils within our mind - subconscious and soul purpose. There are some people in service to others in many ways - More and more certain people feel a sense and desire/purpose to help others and learn healing arts and body healing to dedicate their to assisting others through the NEW paradigm and changes unfolding in the microcosm and macrocosm of life cycles.
There is a group of people/souls in this world who have woken up and are ready to support those who are just entering the cycle of profound personal change. Many folks need assistance and help with changing current perceptions that keep them stuck (in a job, relationship or poor situation due to fears). When we learn to view and perceive and help open up to new soul purpose fulfillment and help with unfoldments and creating new change for better experiences. We help create new paradigms of reality and truths that need to become understood, learned, assimilated into our awareness to enhance ourselves and fulfill soul purposes here on this beautiful earth.
It is not easy (on many levels) living in this polarity-earth-existence with black and white, yes and no, good and bad attitudes. It is the way we have been conditioned to think, talk and interact. Emphasis on fear based Ego-mind- personality based actions.
We have choice, always and when we are wanting more, feeling of wanting more - there are as many ways to do things and accomplish tasks and achievements as there are choice and options in limitless possibilities depending on what actions you decide to take - say and do.
Gone are the days of what we would call 'normal'. Depending on your age and experience (which equals personal confidence), depending on how compassionate you sit within your mentality, and express it - and give equally the same effort in achieving, learning and striving to have more, do more and be more IS THE WHOLE REASON why life exists as a human BEing. To fulfill a sense of accomplishment and joint happiness. Not just in achieving, but creating the life and feeling in alignment with your TRUE BEing.
There are many ways to getting there, when we truly go inward, learn about who we are and what we want....life changes. Are you ready to step into more personal empowerment and soul purpose alignments? Try Intuitive Life Coaching with Karen....
Well, well, well...times and tides have certainly been a-changing and with change comes great insight (or so you hope!).
I must say that through every life-altering event comes an incredible way to notice who you are and where you are going.
It is a time of reflection and honesty within yourself as a person and a soul.
When we decide to pull the wool over our very own eyes we do ourselves such a dis-service on so many levels. Imagine taking a trip that was unexpected and felt miserable the whole time...imagine that! We create our experiences through how and what we decide to think. Our feelings are created from somewhere...we create them by the thoughts, words and actions we decide to take. So have you ever thought of viewing or looking at things in a difference way or perspective? Have you ever tried to turn something that you thought of as "negative or no good" and took a different angle or view of it? You just maybe pleasantly surprised at the outcome or how you are able to cope and or feel through things.
It's our responsibility to manage our energy, thoughts and expressions. It's our personal responsibility to talk ourselves into anything or out of anything. How do you change your thoughts? think the opposite of what you thought that does not feel good. Think it, imagine it and believe you deserve it...it is as simple as that in making the first step.
Next time you feel squeezed by what you are perceiving...examine your thoughts and notions about it...decide to change your perspective and take a positive spin on the circumstances and make the change. Decide to look and seek the 'good' within it. All it is, is a thought away...
It finally feels as if I can breath fully again. There has been so much happening with so many as of late and im excited to say it wont stop so hold on tight to your lightbelts! I say this with an inner chuckle and a warm heart becasue I truly know when you decide to feel the pain...your pain...it will all get much easier from there. it is within that turning point you have made some profound leaps of adjustments on many levels. On the surface you will feel lighter, your tears will have dried up and if you do not choose to focus on what you are still feeling vs. what you have let go then to make room and space for what is to come! It can always be viewed at the glass is half full (all the time and feeling it) vs. the glass is half empty. Another surface level signal of a shift is noticing how good your body feels vs. what aches...giving gratitude to noticing your knee doesnt bother you any more and no more headaches, oh! and i am sleeping so much more soundly. It is within the ease of each day we can still appreciate it being in your life and asking for more of it.
It has been months that my appetite has been really off. Weeks on end talking myself into putting solid foods into my mouth. i desired liquids, teas, water, i also drank nutriticus shakes and green drinks and every day i checked in with myself and nourished myself daily. i lost a couple jean sizes but the way i view it - i feel good, look good - so then all is good!
The road to good is sometimes seemingly unhappy times. I find the best strategy is to feel it, allow it to work through you. If you need to cry - please cry but in knowing you are releasing energy and feelings that you do not want. Instead of what many do is cry but with feeling sorry for themselves in some way. If you cry with the feeling you are letting it go - then you are doing just that! Letting it go.
Always know that when you are going through a difficult time emotionally that it is always temporary. View situtations as temporary and they wont feel so significant.
Empowerment is such a big word lately. It feels as it is. Self reliance, internal power, fortitude and strength that comes from within is in essence the full fruition of personal ambition to be, do and live the way you desire.
I was asked a 4 years ago if I felt powerful. I didn't comprehend exactly what I was being asked. Depending where you sit on your life journey - you could answer that from a few different perspectives.
I felt my answer was, no. I was not within my full power and that was not my goal but it certainly tweaked my curiosity. As I ponder what it would feel like being within myself in a silence of strength and believing I could get what I desired most and it was mine for the taking.
How does one Master their own life? Many would have opinion about that and what it would look and like feel within their own existence I say with confidence that I have stepped into the understanding of Mastering my life. I also have learned that for one to Master their life, they must see things with no glasses on. No filters or corrective intervention. It must be from your own self perspective and with a focus of a clear heartfelt direction that only comes from within...a very deep intrinsic space that only your soul takes its direction from.
I had the gnawing urge and clear direction from the biggest part of who I am to be authentic and to no longer "deal with" or "be in" situations that was not honouring to who I am at the very core and heart of my eternal being. I am learning to Master my Life, and the road is not smooth at times but when and only when you are ready....you will take it and boy oh boy you wont be disappointed!
I am inspired to explore what truth is.... Truth is a vibration of what resonates within our unique desires, perceptions, wants and knowingness....
Why don't we always honour our knowingness?
(have we tapped into it?)
Why are we not all empowered with
clearly seeing, feeling our truths. (have we accepted what is being presented to us?)
What I have noticed and come to realize is that we hide from what truth is sometimes in order to cope. It is easier to take the side
streets vs. the main road at times (some more than others). It is one of our biggest lessons in this life - it is about being within our personal power and doing what is best for us and others. Its about courage, trust, faith, love and personal will and
So what is your truth? To me the it is the feeling and impressions I
get when you get that lightbulb moment of clairity comes in with the feeling of 'yes - follow that) and then take deliberate action to follow that - no matter what is being presented to you at the time - we can choose to be in limbo and get some or part of what makes us gloriously happy or we can choose to focus and see the future and pay attention to that daily.
All it takes is the desire and to make the decision to be in our truth, to be closer
each day to living your truth which in essence is living your purpose.... Do you
know what your purpose is? It is being and doing what feels good and within a
flow of non-resistance. It is the act of fullfilling within your God given
gifts of being an infinate being and being Hu (God) - man (in our body). It is
about feeling good about who you are and what you do. It can be explained as
simply as that.
Do you desire to be within
your truth? Live your purpose? What's stopping you?
learned what excuses you make and what destructive patterns you continue to loop
What is the concept of giving? Who really gives themself fully? Are we capable? What is the energy of giving? Over the last few days I have been spontaneously writing the word Give, and with it I see fish - a little orange fish...strange huh?
As i felt the need to write Give in cursive I seen a fish in my letter G.....I went with that and asked for more....I believe I have the understanding now....
It came to me a few times as I was creating a kids workshop to empower children and to show them how incredibally special they are and for them to really feel it no matter what is being play out around them.
This is my take on what my Guides/Angels are attempting to convey: (they speak to me in symbols, implant words and present to me cicrumstances in knowing I will figure it out eventually). Gotta love that! They also give me feeling and impresessions about people and circumstances in which I am very grateful for....so as I looked up the definitions it all made perfect "sense" to me...
Openly give, be the flexibility to accommodate in order for the children to strengthen their roots - it is the hidden present - for all of us!
Fish was given for me to know that when things are in their best place it will provide strength, it also is the present that will allow resiliency in moving ahead in the best possible direction.
Verb: Freely transfer the possession of (something) to (someone); hand over to:
"they gave her water".
Noun: Capacity to bend or alter in shape under pressure; elasticity: "pots that
have enough give to accommodate the roots".
Synonyms: verb. bestow - grant - present - impart - allow - render
noun. elasticity - resilience - resiliency - spring
Noun: 1. A limbless cold-blooded vertegrate animal with gills and fins and living wholly in water 2. A flat plate of metal, wood, or another material that is fixed on a beam or across a joint in order to give additional strength.
Verb: 1. catch to try to catch fish, typically by using a net or hook and line.
2. Mend or strengthen (a beam, joint, mast) with a fish.
Synonyms: angle, plural of fish
Always look, seek, explore and follow your innate hunches - the wisdom is there! Namaste.
Next blog post I will talk about how the universe is showing me to speak up...speak the truth that I see and feel. The topic is about our curruent educational system and the lack of virtues and purpose many teachers currently have or display in the schools your children are attending...
6/3/2012 0 Comments
I have been noticing many subtle things as each days passes but when you get side tracked by a mac truck you have no choice but to pay attention to what is being presented to you. So clear time and make space for if you choose not to do the lessons, it will only keep coming back in different ways and flavours. What a roller coaster ride this year has been and the one biggest nugget that i have taken and owned is that when you surrender to to the deeper meaning and understanding behind (or underneath) a situation you start to smell, see and feel the innate reasoning and wisdom. It occurs after you feel what you are meant to feel in order to make the shift. For me it's like a light switch quite literally (I either wake feeling different - relieved actually, or a shift in emotion sweeps over me) - it is my higher self that I feel allows me to flick it off but only after I have been in the dark to learn my lesson - the lessons usually are not obvious, the big ones have been building up until you are ready for change and then...and only then will it appear. So if you are the type to ignore the little hints that the universe provides and you decide to sweep them under the carpet and pretend they are gone....just wait - because they will come back in other ways until they knock you up-side the head to get your attention.
The feeling of knowing it has passed is so engrained in me that when that energy comes and is present I really feel it. Feels like I am looser, freer, lighter and I have more joy within, feeling happier and more content. It releases inhibitions and asks you to do more, see more, and feel more! When you are awakened and aware you will get it! Really get it!
So how do you surrender? How do you see in a different light? so-to-speak...
It is about really understanding how you feel and witness and be aware of what you are thinking that is creating your feelings. As far as a particular situation or scenario and how you perceive it plays an intricate roll in your experience. I found myself desiring to hibernate and it almost became a mind game of thinking vs. doing and honouring what my experience is. If I pushed it aside it did not go away and I felt heavy and uninspired. When I gave myself time away and didn't buy into what others' expectations were of me then and only then did I gain some personal perspective and was more able and available to assist myself. At times it felt like I was anti-social or as some would think 'depressed'. Well I knew that not to be the case but if my spirit was not strong it could have dragged me to the dark depths of immobility. I could have gotten sucked into ego and felt sorry for myself, what good would that do? In that action you are stating to the universe that you are not enough and you want attention from others ....as I created time and space for me to breath within my own energy that is when clarity and shifting occurred. I talked myself into the mindset that I AM ENOUGH and have the power within to get past it. I began to feel more like myself and slowly desired to do the normal things I do. I felt so compelled to just take off to clear my head and heart...instead I surrendered and had many discussions with my Guides, God and Angels. Many different feeling energies ran through me such as extreme chills and cold...right to the very core and bones. I asked for my Guides to help release this energy in the most benevolent way. As I requested that from the depths of my soul things felt better. I spent any spare moment (which i had to create as I run my own business and have two children and I also assist my Mother with her situation (dementia) it was a juggling act at times). I would forget many things and mix time up, waking up at 3 and 4 in the morning and all the while setting the intension that I am well, whole and on a clearing journey that I will sort out with the help of my Angels (in spirit and here on earth). I am not one to dive into discomfort and talk about it....what I am about is self empowerment and taking a step back to see the full view. It is about taking full responsibility for my own experience and really owning it. Yes, I shed many tears, sometimes out of know-where at times - they felt like a clearing and that is how i percieved it - as just that - an energy clearing - pent up emotions that needed time and space to be let go. I meditated, went for walks, sang and gave myself permission to just be (as i have the tendency to not just sit around..I do because there is much to do in a household).
Its out character for me to hibernate and ask to be alone...I did so with an understanding that everyone around me will support that. My hunger was little at best, I was running on fumes...I would eat bites of good food and supplements to sustain my physical body and was drinking a lot of water and herbal teas. I had one good friend who i was able to speak to about my whole journey which I am so grateful for. Even then I was clearing things about our relationship that was just under the surface.
The two biggest opportunities and lessons I walked way with:
We are our own masters and when we completely honour our truth our outer world will reflect and support it. Each minute, hour, day week we will SEE more clearly and feel connected and open up more to awareness of how we work, how things really are and with that knowledge comes great power for self. (I accomplished this with talking myself into many things and out of many things) but always keeping the awareness of who I really am. I am a wonderfully inspired spark of God (which everyone is) and I am here to make a difference in how people view themselves and our world/universe. I am that I am!
Second is everything is always temporary...especially the circumstances that bring us the most opportunity to learn (i do not wish to say challenges or problems - to me they are opportunities to grow).
Pay close attention to all the words and thoughts that form in your mind and on your tongue...we are fully responsible for them. They do create our existence.
Another big nugget is that it is wise to be aware of how much energy we intend on giving something - remember if you ask for a lot, be prepared energetically to give just as much and more (with your heart). I will definitely expand on this learning and show a deeper meaning and understanding next time! Until then....much love and light....we are never alone! Pull in the love! xo
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